Those traits/likes etc., do nothing to help you understand if you will get along with that person. It does nothing to get you to the heart of your beloved's heart. The one most important thing to do when deciding what is important in a mate is to keep it simple. It's the little things, the simple things that tell whether your mate has integrity and the capacity for love.
Things like, I rarely get routed to his voice mail - he always takes my calls and he always returns them- he respects me.
She does what she says she is going to do, I trust her word.
She is fresh, clean and showers every day. I just threw that in, but hey hygiene is important, no one wants a stinky partner!
He is never volatile or violent with me, his mother or any other woman. No explanation necessary, I hope.
He is not over the top jealous when I smile at another guy/ she doesn't lose her mind when the waitress smiles at me. She/he is confident and trusts me.
We can disagree then laugh and still enjoy our meal. He/she lives int he real world and we can work things out.
3 Tips to help you close the deal:
1. Don't be so judgmental. Especially those of us in church and who have religious beliefs. Avoid being egotistical and thinking that you are holier than every person on earth.
2. Relax. Just like dogs smell fear, people feel when you are uptight. Take it down a thousand.
3. And finally allow yourself to feel and follow your intuition. You usually have a gut feeling when someone is not right for you. Trust your gut and keep that simple to. You do not need a reason. You do not need validation. You just know. If it feels bad let it go.
Trust that the mate you are looking for is looking for you!
Cathleen, in Effect